Micah, Do You Have a Moment?

28 days and counting.

28 days until our family dynamics change in a significant way as Micah embarks on a year-long faith adventure with his God and Pais Australia.

It doesn’t take much for me to choke up, for the tears to well, and for my heart to ache as I anticipate my son’s launching into independent life next month. Please don’t get me wrong. I’m soooooooo excited for this kid and for what he will be experiencing in the next twelve months in the Land Down Under. John and I affirm Micah’s decision to take a gap year before embarking upon university life in the States. A gap year is a wise move for a kid who has spent the majority of his life living away from the nation of his birth. A gap year will offer him time and opportunity to shore up his identity in Christ, gain an even broader perspective of how God is at work in the world, hone his communication skills, strengthen his leadership abilities, and enhance his interpersonal relationship prowess. This is a good, good, good investment of people, resource, time and space into Micah’s life.

Yet, I realize that as Micah is about to grow and change in a big way – that means I must adjust as well.

I’ll always be mom to my Micah Man, but, my days of encouraging, reminding, coaching, and even cajoling him on a day-in-day-out basis are coming to a conclusion. For the past 18 and a half years, Micah has been a steady, dependable presence in our family’s daily life – certainly, my daily life. When things have come up or when I just needed to talk to him, Micah has been available to hear me say any number of things:

Micah, have you thought about…?

Micah, will you look for …?

Micah, it’s time to ….

Micah, would you consider….

Micah, will you help me …?

Micah, when was the last time that …?

Micah, may I share something with you…?

Micah, do you have a moment…?

Speaking into Micah’s life about this-that-and-the-other-thing and listening to his response has been a daily deal – since forever – with him. I’m going to miss these times with my son. Of course, we’ll still talk. It just won’t be every day.

I have always appreciated how Micah is incredibly open and receptive to learning and growing – he always has been. This character trait will serve him well in his discipleship experience with Pais Australia and certainly into the future. In a world where so many people believe they are in the right or hold the right position on life, social matters, morality, economics, politics, and more, if Micah can continue to be open to hearing, to listening, to understanding, and to learning from those who take a different position, possess a different worldview, hold a different faith, and yet, remain true to his relationship, identity and purpose in Christ, there is no doubt in my mind that Micah has the potential to help others develop a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ and grow their relationship with Him.

But, it won’t be easy.

In recognition of this truth, Paul wrote this caution to Timothy:

Yes, and all who desire to live godly lives in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution. But evil men and impostors will grow worse and worse, deceiving and being deceived. But you must continue in the things which you have learned and been assured of, knowing from whom you have learned them, and that from childhood you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.

New International Version, 2 Timothy 3: 12 – 15

This is every Christ-believing mother’s prayer for her children as they launch out into life. We know the world is full of deceivers, cheats, hypocrites, fools, and cold, heartless people. We’ve met them. We’ve been hurt and scarred by them. We’ve been duped by them, too. We would be naïve to think that our kids won’t encounter them as well. We live in a cruel world. With all of this muck in mind, we desire that our children will continue forward in their faith walk with Christ. We pray we’ve done enough to equip them in this effort. I have no doubt that John and I have done what we could over the years with Micah. Was it enough? Well, who can really say? We did our best. It is now time for Micah to make his faith in Christ, his own. And as I shared, his faith will be tested and tested and tested. Micah’s faith will grow without me asking…

Micah, have you thought about…?

Micah, would you consider….

Micah, may I share something …?

Micah, do you have a moment…?

Instead, I am trusting that Micah will remain close to his God and seek out counsel in the Word of God to guide his steps. It is my prayer that Micah remembers that the Word has every answer he needs:

All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that our son Micah, the man of God, may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.

New International Version, 2 Timothy 3: 16-17

This is will be just one of many prayers I’ll be praying now and in the next 28 days and beyond for my son. It is my hope that Micah is thoroughly equipped for what is ahead – and if he is not – that the Lord provides exactly what he needs as his God apportions work and station to my son. Because as the surprises, the joys, the interruptions, the burdens, the setbacks, the disappointments, the pain, the hardships, the blessings, and the valley and the mountain-top experiences come, I know that my God will apportion Micah the tools, the grace, the strength, and the hope he will need to see each situation through in faith and trust.

How do I know that?

Because of the faith relationship God has honed in me through the years – my own, personal, rich and true relationship with Christ. And if He does it for me, my God will do the same with my son as Micah leans into Him for his own relationship.

28 more days.

I relish each day with my son even as I enquire for just a while longer: “Micah, do you have a moment….?”

4 thoughts on “Micah, Do You Have a Moment?

  1. Beautiful picture of you two. You have a moms heart. Chuck Orwiler told me once that our kids will manage life as we did. God gave them everything He gave us, and is with them. Whether it is a world catastrophe, or daily life. We are all survivors together. Whether we are there coaching or thousands of miles away. They get to do life without us at some point. Here you go on this journey of releasing one to do just that. God bless you Heather.

    1. Thank you, Nancy! What a great insight to share with me! I really appreciate it! And yes, we are about to embark on a brand new journey as a family. Your encouragement is a gift! With love, heather

  2. You and John are such good examples of trusting in our Heavenly Father that I just can’t and won’t believe that Micah won’t lean into Jesus each and every time he has a doubt or question. He is growing into the young man you have guided him to be. I bet he surprises you (I know my kids have ALL surprised me) with just how much he has retained of your teachings.

    1. Thank you, Shara. Micah has his own road to travel now. We are very much aware of a number of 18-22 year-olds who struggle with identity issues and end up questioning the faith of their early years. We have attempted at each faith juncture in Micah’s life – as well as his brothers – to encourage them to make their own faith choices and seek Jesus for themselves. So far, they’ve been doing that and seen God’s personal hand upon their lives. I appreciate your encouragement always, Shara! You are such a joy! With love, heather

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