Making Friends with a Quiet Heart

I read the words.

I read them again.

I read them one.more.time.

I couldn’t move my eyes or rather my heart past them.

I acknowledged that I needed exactly what David, the psalmist, described. In this tumultuous, upside-down-for-me-lately, calamitous world, I breathed in the blessing of this strengthening word.

I was prompted to read Psalm 131 from the Message recently.

Why did this three-verse psalm of David speak to me?

David’s words exhorted me to demonstrate honesty, humility, and contentment even in the life spaces where apprehension, disquietude, and din chained me. It is believed that David penned this psalm in response to his own upside-down-I-didn’t-ask-for-this challenges. He served under the watchful, jaundiced and jealous eye of King Saul. Misjudged, misunderstood, and mistreated, David wrote:

God, I’m not trying to rule the roost,
    I don’t want to be king of the mountain.
I haven’t meddled where I have no business
    or fantasized grandiose plans.

I’ve kept my feet on the ground,
    I’ve cultivated a quiet heart.
Like a baby content in its mother’s arms,
    my soul is a baby content.

Wait, Israel, for God. Wait with hope.
    Hope now; hope always!

The Message, Psalm 131

In this season of my life, I relate to many of David’s declarations.

However, the one that leaped into my conscience and stirred my soul was this:

I’ve cultivated a quiet heart.


I murmured, “I love that.”

Then I asked myself, “What would it mean to cultivate a quiet heart?

According to the online Merriam-Webster Dictionary, cultivate means to improve by labor, care, or study. To cultivate fosters growth and prepares something for use. However, the meaning that I liked most defined cultivate as to make friends with. As I thought about this word picture, I smiled.


That’s exactly what I want.

I desire to make friends with a quiet heart.

What is a quiet heart?

To me, a quiet heart is securely tucked away from every bit of outside noise, clamor, contempt, and confusion this world attempts to crush us with.

In the calm, in the hush, in the peace, and in the stillness, we make friends with our quiet hearts.

But how do we reach such a place?

There is a sweet, guileless, and unworldly way.

We nestle like a child into our loving and protective Savior’s embrace. The longing of David’s heart -like mine – was to draw near to his Lord and experience the love, grace, mercy, and affirmation of his God in a peaceful space.

Free of all the drama, liberated from all the demand, released from all the suspicion, emancipated from all the torment and persecution, David envisioned a welcoming, warm, and safe space where none of this rancor could harm him.

He waited in hope and expectation for such a wondrous time – and as he did so – he cultivated and made friends with his quieted heart.

So, how do we do this?

At this time?

When there is so much harm and malevolence at work in this world, when there is so much expectation and demand to walk-this-way-believe-this-way-look this way-be-this-way, when there is so-so-so-so-much noise that screams for our attention, when there is so much fear and insecurity that makes us question everything about ourselves, and when there is so much anger – too much anger – that fails to see the blessing and beauty of others, but rather reacts out of powerlessness, hopelessness, and violation, is it possible to quiet our hearts?

Can we make friends with a quiet heart?

I believe we can.

But it requires something from us.

There is a cost.

We must step away from the noise.

We must remove ourselves from the demands and expectations.

We must distance ourselves from the people, places, and things that do us harm – emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually.

We must nestle ourselves into the arms of our Lord.

There is no right-or-wrong way for us.

It’s just an invitation.



Be still.

And get acquainted with or even reacquainted with our quiet hearts.

Is it time to make a new friend – or maybe make friends again – with the quiet, still, pleasant space within our hearts where we find the joy, grace, and welcoming love of Jesus? 

So, what about it friends?

Do you welcome the thought of making friends with a quiet heart?

What do you need to do to cultivate this friendship? I won’t tell you. We each have our own, unique-to-us challenges to release.

I have mine.

But, I’ve taken the step into this space – and it’s lovely.


It’s always life-giving to make time for a life-affirming friend.

What do you think?

Let’s cultivate a quiet heart.

3 thoughts on “Making Friends with a Quiet Heart

  1. I am trying. I want this , but the demands of daily living pull me back in to the clammer. It almost seems sinful to want the escape. Like the Cinderella complex where I hide and rest while my husband takes care of things. It seems unfair, and selfish to just turn off, and hide in peace. Who will do the work? Is there a way to do the work, and still be hidden in that perfect peace??

    1. Great question, Nancy. Our God isn’t asking us to give up our work. And I don’t think David is either. David was being persecuted – day in and day out. This world of ours has things in it that are not the best for us either. In order to make friends with a quiet heart, is there anything that is extraneous and not needed in your life that would help lift at least some of the pressure that you feel? Like you, I have a lot of work. That hasn’t gone away and won’t. But it’s finding spaces in our day where we can cultivate our relationship with our Lord without distraction. What do you think about that? Blessings to you, heather

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